When you lose someone you love, it can be one of the hardest things you ever go through. While physical injury may undoubtedly be painful, nothing compares to the pain of loss.  Perhaps one of the hardest aspects of losing someone is the fact that you still have to function. You still have to get up every day, feed yourself, and take showers, which can be almost impossible when you’re grieving.

To top things off, you may be responsible for organizing your loved one’s memorial. This can be an incredibly overwhelming task when you’re feeling emotionally charged. Organizing an event when you’re grieving can feel like an incredibly monumental task. To help you navigate the process, here are the best tips for organizing your loved ones memorial service, and making it a meaningful experience that brings closure to you and your loved ones.

Respect Their Wishes

The first step is going over the wishes of what your loved one would have wanted to happen. What were their personal beliefs and customs? Reflect on how they would have wanted to be remembered and organize the memorial accordingly. Choose music that they would have loved, read things that they would have appreciated, and add personal antidotes that can honor who they truly were. 

Choose The Right Venue

The venue you choose will play a significant role in how the memorial goes. Choose a meaningful place where you can honor the person you’re grieving.  Consider choosing a location that was important for the one you’re leaving behind.  Did they have a favorite park? Were they an active member of a certain community or cause?  Always consider locations that hold special meaning.  

At the same time, don’t forget the importance of logistics.  You want to choose a place that can realistically host the number of people you’re inviting and would be appropriate for a memorial to be held.  Not all locations are made for memorials, so always consider the context.

Involve Family and Friends

You can’t do it all on your own.  Don’t burden yourself with all of the planning alone.  Enlist friends and family members to get involved and help out with all of the various aspects.  This will ease some of the responsibility that can be overwhelming during the process.

Not only will this help you feel less pressure as you delegate tasks, but it will also give your family and friends a sense of purpose as they are involved in the process. This will make them feel more connected to the person you’ve all lost, and foster a sense of camaraderie as everyone navigates grief in their own way.  

Create A Program

While there are all sorts of aspects to organizing a memorial, from flowers to post-service food and drink, perhaps the most important thing you should stay focused on is a program.  The program should be personalized and include details about their loved one’s life.   Include photographs, and meaningful anecdotes that will honor the memory of your loved one and serve as a keepsake for people who bring it home.